Speaking Your Husband’s Love Language: Acts of Service

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Do you know the phrase actions speak louder than words?  Have you thought about how that applies to your husband and the way you show your love?  Some people respond well to words of affirmation, but for others, they need to SEE it to believe it.  We have been talking about speaking your husband’s love language; which is important on Valentine’s Day, but should be practiced all year long.  This time around we are focusing on acts of service that show him how you feel.

Acts of service is MY love language, so this is an easy topic to write about.  Oh sure, I enjoy getting little gifts from my husband, and I like hearing him say nice things; but I swoon when he unloads the dishwasher or opens my door for me.  It seems like men have so many opportunities to serve their wives because all they have to do is take on one of our tasks for us, right?  Wives may have a harder time coming up with acts of service for their husbands, but it is not that difficult. I promise.

You don’t have to do some big, grand gesture to show your husband you love him!  Think about all that you do on a regular basis for him; is that not serving?  Doing his laundry, cooking his meals, tending his home, etc, are all everyday ways wives serve their husbands!  Are you reading this and thinking “Boy, do I have it easy then!  All I have to do is make sure I still do my regular housework and I’m golden!”?  I want to encourage you to examine how you serve your husband. Because the way you do it is just as important as the service itself.

Think about that for a moment.

How you serve is just as important as the service itself.

Are you complaining that your husband never empties his pockets before putting his jeans in the wash?  Are you getting aggravated at how he leaves his towel all balled up after showering?  Does it annoy you that you have to cook AND clean up the dishes?  Or are you performing these acts of simple service with a joyful heart?

Do your homemaking tasks and chores cause you grief or are you looking at them as a gift from God, as a way to show your love to your husband and family?  If the former is true of you, I hope and pray that you would desire a new outlook!

Too often wives will see homemaking as less exciting than being out in the world, especially if they had worked outside the home before marriage or have recently dealt with a job loss (been there, done that!).  It is quite easy to fall into the trap of unrest and find homemaking dull and boring.  Then the road to coveting is much shorter, and resentment can build up.  Whether you are a homemaker by choice or by unfortunate circumstances, that is your current path in life, and how you view it makes all the difference.

It’s my personal belief that God calls women to be homemakers, as spelled out in Titus 2:5.

…Train the young women…to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands, so that no one will malign the word of God.

Serving our husbands through homemaking is a wonderful way to show we love them, especially if acts of service is their love language!  If your spirit is one of discontent towards homemaking, I suggest taking time to read through Amanda’s post on serving God through homemaking, to help you understand why it matters.

If you are already serving your husband joyfully, good job! Keep at it, sister friend, because you are doing great work!

I hope this post shows you that acts of service for your husband do not have to be complicated and that joyfully serving through homemaking is a wonderful way to speak his love language.

Speaking your husband’s love language is key to any marriage, but for those whose husband’s love language is words of affirmation, these simple ways in speaking his love language are sure to win him over. If you don’t know your husband’s love language I encourage you to read this book or take this test.

Marriage isn’t easy, but God’s love is everlasting and He will guide you and your husband through anything the world can throw at you. If you’re feeling overwhelmed in your marriage, I encourage you to join our community of new wives on Facebook, where you can get support, encouragement, and prayer.